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Sunshine Girl On A Rainy Day

2025: Gearing Up - In 2025, my hope is that each of us continue to move forward to make a positive difference, regardless of obstacles: ^ I've posted the beginning of this ...
3 weeks ago
Families R Built with Love

The Revolution will not be danced! - That was the title of the dance piece that my son choreographed taught to 11 other dancers and performed himself at college. At almost 12 minutes it w...
11 months ago
The adopted ones blog

Are Adoptees Blank Slates? - An Adoptee on twitter made an observation that summed up the reality for many adoptees and I can’t find the tweet. Argh. The gist of it was even if you get...
1 year ago
Parenting Your Adopted Child: Tweens, Teens & Beyond

Hello world! - Welcome to WordPress. This is your first post. Edit or delete it, then start writing!… The post Hello world! first appeared on Judy M. Miller.
1 year ago
In Writing Motherhood

Southwest Moonlight and Making Babies: An Excerpt from Pushing up the Sky - Fall, 1972. “I want to cancel my appointment,” I told the woman at the front desk. “Instead of birth control counseling I need a pregnancy test.” The docto...
1 year ago
CHILDMYTHS

What's the context for "alienating behaviors"? (Baselines and all that) - It would seem quite likely that some parents do sometimes do or say things that can be considered "alienating behaviors”—actions that might make child...
1 year ago
Daniel Ibn Zayd

Goodbye, WordPress! - I think I’ve hated WordPress since I first started using it, and that hatred has only grown as it has morphed into an unusable mess with an obtuse interfac...
1 year ago
I Was A Foster Kid

How’d it happen - Today at work, I was thinking about my life. Man, I have a job. I have an apartment. I pay my bills. I am not in prison or pregnant or living on the stree...
1 year ago
Pound Pup Legacy Feed

Les 11.000 mailles - “Academia Catavencu” - 18 juilliet 2001 Chers lecteurs, Ce qui suit est une petite histoire qui précède la visite en Roumanie d’un premier-ministre français et de sa suite. Le...
3 years ago
Land of Gazillion Adoptees

Why is Home Décor Essential? - A day spent alone, and one spent with friends will get you in an entirely different mood. Your mood depends on your company and surroundings. This theory d...
4 years ago
The Chronicles of Munchkin Land

壁面緑化をすることによって環境などにどう影響があるのか - 地球環境への配慮が可能となる地球環境のことを考え、壁面緑化 […]
4 years ago
Sideshow Barb

SOUND AND FURY - It’s the noise that brings me to my knees. Noise I can’t control. I spoke with my psychiatrist regarding it a year ago. He mused on it for a few, shifted i...
4 years ago
Foster 2 Forever - Adopting Children through Foster Care

Is Foster Income Taxable? What Foster Parents Should Know About Income Tax - Is Foster Income Taxable? What Foster Parents Should Know About Income Tax IS FOSTER INCOME TAXABLE? You do not have to report foster payments you receiv...
5 years ago
[Birth Mother,] First Mother Forum

First/birth mothers: Letting out the secret of the child no one knows about; telling the family about my first child, relinquished to adoption - Jane and Lorraine, 1982 New York's Gov. Cuomo announced yesterday that more than 3,600 people applied for their original birth certificates within 48 hou...
5 years ago
Adopto-Snark

Black Friday Baby, Part Two - Egad, I’ve been dreading this, but I did promise. So here’s the rest of Funny Alabama Daddy’s very funny riff on how funny it is to be white raising a blac...
5 years ago
The Declassified Adoptee

Dumping a Social Worker's Cards on the Table: Adoption Cannot Solve Abortion - "Everyone has strengths within them that can create solutions. They just need some organizing." I repeat this phrase often to my students. I repeat it in...
5 years ago
Fostering Attachment

Feelings Wheel: Moving Beyond Primal Emotions - Click to enlarge image I recently learned about this tool during an Emotional Poverty training. Our basic human emotions are primal, and based on surviva...
6 years ago
noah baby

Tips on Breastfeeding and Snacks for Breastfeeding Your New Baby - So you are probably here because you wanna know exactly more information on breastfeeding and the best snacks for breastfeeding too? One of the greatest bo...
6 years ago
Lost Daughters

One Child at a Time* - With my foster family in South Korea I recently published an essay titled, *“Colonized through Adoption.” *After I published the piece, I realized that I ...
6 years ago
Cherub Mamma

My last CPS meeting - I don't remember the "official" name of the meeting I attended this morning. But the gist of it was to find out what the State could do to salvage the plac...
6 years ago
the5parkers

No Secret Sisters For Me! - So, recently, a friend posted a Secret Sister invite on her facebook page. Like many others, I was enticed by the idea of 6-36 presents. I'm not gonna lie...
6 years ago
Transracialeyes

ASAC/AI Conference: Voices of Adoption Literary Event - ASAC presents Voices of Adoption, an evening of literary readings, featuring Jennifer Kwon Dobbs, Susan Harness, Julayne Lee, and Lee Herrick (and many oth...
6 years ago
Rage Against the Minivan

CLAIRVOYANT HEALING, COLON CLEANSING, AND HYPNOTHERAPY: THE WEIRDEST THINGS WE’VE DONE IN THE NAME OF HEALTH | SELFIE EPISODE 45 - Sarah saw a hypnotherapist. Kristen went to a faith healer. One of us has had her colon roto-routed. We are talking about the most wacky and woo-woo thin...
6 years ago
John Raible Online

Family reunification & resistance -
6 years ago
Scooping it Up

Visiting the DMV With an Immigrant, Transracially Adopted Child - Recently I went with my anxious teenager to the DMV to take the test for her learners permit. We arrived expecting lines and nerves about her test. But wha...
6 years ago
Fosterhood in NYC

The February 2018 Update is... - that there is no update. Really, are you at all surprised? We’re doing well though. My attorney wants me to put the blog back up and start writing ag...
6 years ago
Stellar Parenting 101

The Wall - I hit the wall hard on Friday night and I woke up Saturday morning just as miserable as I had gone to bed. So I . spent the entire day in my hiding in my ...
7 years ago
Exile of Xingnan

Voice Clips - I sent up a request on the Chinese subreddit asking if anyone was conversationally fluent in Hokkien/Mandarin to see if they could translate (or get the gi...
7 years ago
Crash course in parenting - Life as a foster mom

The latest - So much to say! I'll do bullet points here at first. 1. The state didn't ask bio dad if they could share information with us; apparently the only children ...
7 years ago
kimberly gonzalez

Where There’s Smoke… - finished transcribing a Supernatural fan fic i started writing over the summer today. it comes in at about 4.5k words so far, but there’s still …
7 years ago
And other ideas and thoughts ....

Still coping with a difficult, aging parent. Still sane. I think. - I'm taking a break, well, a physical break, from tending to my mom today. Mentally it's tough to completely turn off when acting as caregiver to a parent w...
7 years ago
Love Is Not a Pie

Introducing Becca - Hi everyone! I'm back! Sort of. Let me explain. Many of you know me as a Rebecca Hawkes, but in real life most people know me as Becca Bryer. Rebecca Hawk...
7 years ago
Mother Issues

seeds - Sorry I disappeared again. It wasn’t a good time to talk about what’s going on because still nothing is resolved but sometimes I want to talk anyway and I’...
7 years ago
"Neither Here Nor There..."

Never Lose Hope - It sometimes feels "as if" I'm dragging my mind and body through quick sand. Writing that sentence releases tears. 2013 was a hard year. So was 2014...
8 years ago
Indigo Child Khara

In the night - PTSD is a bitch. One hour of sleep, or perhaps if I am lucky I get two or three. But sleep is not something I can take for granted, so the usual routine is...
8 years ago
Finding Christopher, Finding Myself

(Birth) Moms ~ Search for Your (adult) Child! - *from: Wild Women Sisterhood* *FULL MOON PRAYER by Rumi What in your life is Calling you, When all the noise is silenced, The meetings adjourne...
8 years ago
The Not So Secret Life of an Adoptee...Shhhhh they might hear you.

College Scholarships for Adoptees - *Did you know that there are scholarships available for adopted and foster children?* Many of these scholarships cover tuition cost, living expenses, c...
8 years ago
welcome to my brain . net

All Parent Blogs in One Place! - If you are looking for all of my blog posts pertaining to therapeutic parenting, you can locate those on my coaching site. Neat and tidy. I'll see you over...
8 years ago
FAMILY PRESERVATION ADVOCACY

I HATE THE WORD ADOPTION! - Back in the 1980s MaryAnne Cohen wrote the following poem. It is published in my first book *shedding light on...The Dark Side of Adoption, *(1988): *ADOP...
8 years ago
Writing My Wrongs

Facing Pride of Abandonment - Despite the number of times she said it, I do not think she was “proud” she gave away her child. At least I do not think she was proud in the literal sen...
8 years ago
Once Was Von

10 Cara Mengatasi Rambut Rontok Secara Alami Yang Praktis dan Mudah - Cara mengatasi rambut rontok secara alami seringkali menjadi pilihan yang dilakukan oleh banyak orang karena dianggap mudah dan terjangkau, selain itu ju...
8 years ago
Just What The Hell Am I Supposed To Call This?

Manfaat Buah Kapulaga bagi Kesehatan Tubuh - Manfaat Buah Kapulaga bagi Kesehatan Tubuh – Buah kapulaga selama ini lebih dikenal sebagai rempah rempah untuk bumbu masakan. Selain digunakan sebagai b...
8 years ago
Our Little Tongginator

Chinese New Year Chapter Books for Older Kids - There are many lists about Chinese New Year books for preschoolers and young elementary students, but very few highlight chapter books for middle graders a...
9 years ago
Taste of Kimchi

가는 말이 고와야 오는 말이 곱다 - I am Korean born. 한국어 탄생. 입양인.
9 years ago
Adoption Truth

Shout It Out - So, between taking my sweet Granddaughter to Disney World and getting into our family place at the lake, I’ve spent most of September barely on social med...
9 years ago
Rileys in Uganda

Guest Post: David Smolin shares his experience as a speaker at this years Christians Alliance for Orphan (CAFO) summit - In CAFO’s own words their summit “inspires and equips Christians to care for orphans with wisdom-guided love. The CAFO Summit has become the national hub...
9 years ago
Letting Go of Mie

Little Sister -
9 years ago
my fascinating life

Near and Far - Here's what Christmas was like when I was a child in Australia: presents in the morning around our family Christmas tree, then over to our grandparents' h...
10 years ago
FosterWee

A neat and tidy ending - I guess I was kind of waiting for one, hoping that I could write that final post that pulled everything together, made it all just fine – the ending that m...
10 years ago
Mothering4Money

School Supply List 2014-2015 - I currently have 7 children, 5 of whom will be in public school this year. Their combined school supply list is forever long. Good thing I buy things on sa...
10 years ago
A Family of My Own

Small Update - I mailed my Dad’s Father’s Day card, which included my letter to him asking him to adopt me back, today. Now I’m nervous, but it probably won’t even get to...
10 years ago
Wandering alongside my Little Wolayta Warrior

Letting go of The Hard. Good night. - Why couldn't I just leave it here, unfinished? I don't know. Yet, it haunts me. This year, I become aware, one of the things I really needed to do was "Let...
10 years ago
Ain't That Sherific?

They Just Don't Get It . . . - I have decided to take my son out of school at the end of this year. For years I was intent on the fact that he would be in school as long as they allowed...
10 years ago
Foster Parenting Adventures

A recipe for co-parenting when divorced - These days I am getting a steady flow of referrals from a new family court judge. He'll order that a child's parents both submit to psychological evaluati...
10 years ago
Fostering Thrifty Families

Great Deal on gDiapers Hybrid Cloth Diapers with Flushable Liners (LIMITED TIME) - One of my favorite ways to be a thrifty foster parent is to cloth diaper! For our family it's been a fantastic way to protect our foster babies' tender tu...
11 years ago
I Will Pull This Blog Over!

Not the White Christmas I am Dreaming of.... - In light of the totally and complete idiocy surrounding the new debate about whether a FICTIONAL character is black or white, (and the subsequent white wa...
11 years ago
The Daily Bastardette

Daiily Bastardette moving to Word Press - After a couple years of talking to myself about it, I have decided to transfer *The Daily Bastardette* from Blogger to Word Press. The final straw cam...
11 years ago
Production, Not Reproduction

Well, Hello There - Hello! How are you? I miss writing here so much! But that is not what I am here today to say. [image: Adoption Blogger Interview Project 2013] The Adoptio...
11 years ago
Out of the Fog

Cross Post From My Reunited Cricket Blog: Stop Saying That!! - *STOP SAYING THAT!!*
11 years ago
Fantastic Lies

Party Animals - *I understand this post is almost a year over due, but the theme of this blog is better late then never. * All I wanted for my bachelorette party was to...
11 years ago
Fostering Awareness

She's 4!! - Happy Birthday Bri!!
11 years ago
The Luckiest {Unlucky} Girl

Luca's 3rd Bday - I was there the day he was born. I can not believe this little baby is THREE years old. (Click to Enlarge) Someone please tell him to stop growing...
11 years ago
Life in the Grateful House

Trauma Doesn't Tell Time - Robyn Gobbel, LCSW, wrote a blog post regarding trauma, implicit and explicit memories. I don't know Robyn but now I'm seriously crushing on her. Here is...
11 years ago
Percolated Paradox

Guess who got a job? - Me. That's who! My background check was finally fixed and the transitional living program offered me a job. It will be a night job that doesn't pay enoug...
11 years ago
Foster Mama & the kiddos

Oh My it has been AWHILE! - Well... by the looks of things around the blog I got busy :) I can't believe it has been since August that I last updated on our journey. I don't have time...
11 years ago
My Tsehai

Orphans, Orphanage in children's movies and books? - If you are a member of the adoption triad you probably know of Disney's need to kill off a parent in every movie. We avoid any movies that I know have a ne...
12 years ago
FormerFosterTalk

Defining Ourselves for Ourselves - An Alumni Sister asked, “how do we learn to define ourselves for ourselves and learn to not see ourselves as cases but as people?” Learning to define yours...
12 years ago
AdoptionTalk

Culture, Christmas & Adoption - Somehow, in all the years I've watched Miracle on 34th Street, I've managed to miss this scene until this year, where a Dutch girl comes to see Macy's Sa...
12 years ago
It's You and Me Kid!

First holidays together.... - Tigger, S, and I had a wonderful Thanksgiving. We were with my parents and my relatives. S's relatives have all moved out of state and this was his first...
12 years ago
Our Foster Family Tree

Musings of the Lame: Life as a Birthmother: What's Wrong With the Adoption Tax Credit? - Please hop on over to Musings of the Lame, where Claudia has made it easy to let your law makers know that we will support a bill that HELPS FOSTER CHILD...
12 years ago
the fiddlehead report...a day in the life of the Rikkers

Back to school= quiet house - Back to school 2012 that's deserving of a blog post! Really, my house is quiet. The tears of sending Jack off to Kindergarten have passed. I have a mome...
12 years ago
Adopting Special Needs

Moving - I have moved this blog to http://adoptingspecialneeds.wordpress.com. I hope you all move with me!
12 years ago
I'm Still a Good Mother; A Birth Mother's Journey Through Open Adoption

Absence Makes The Heart Grow........ - "Absence makes the heart grow founder". Does it really? Or does absence make the heart grow curious, empty, confused, or just plain hard? I never truly und...
12 years ago
Always in My Heart: An Adoption Journey

Finding Myself - Have any of you seen the movie, "Runaway Bride"? Well, there's a girl who has been engaged multiple times and ends up running off during the actual wedding...
12 years ago
Fleas Biting

Saddleback Church Orphan Summit: Five Reasons Why Rick Warren and Kay Warren Got it Wrong on Adoption and Orphan Care - Rick Warren and Kay Warren both spoke on the second day of the Eighth Christian Alliance for Orphans Summit (May 4, 2012), held at Saddleback Church. ...
12 years ago
From Foster Kid to Foster Parent

Labels Change. “Foster Kid” to “Foster Parent” - Fifteen years ago, if you would have told me that I would one day be a foster parent, I would have laughed in your face. I wanted to be so far away from th...
12 years ago
Insert Bad Movie Title Here

Reminder - I moved to: http://insertbadmovietitlehere.wordpress.com Thanks for following!
12 years ago
Words of weary memories that I can always see

Recognition. - My biosister, Nicole, is a teenager and is 5 months pregnant. Obviously, when most people find this out, they are curious to know if she will place her ...
13 years ago
workshop for beginners

Moved - I've got myself some new digs. If you want to follow, email me at: dandiesinthesunshine@hotmail.com
13 years ago
SocialWrkr24/7 : Eyes Opened Wider

CW101 - Visit Logistics - The logistics of parent/child visitation may not be as hard as the emotional fallout, but I realize that it is a major cause of stress and frustration. So,...
13 years ago
Rita's Rituals

Saying Goodbye To A Pet Is Never Easy - I lost my first baby, bandana boy, sooo sad. The decision was hard. And even though it may have been obvious, the loss of a pet is never easy. I still r...
13 years ago
Seventeen Pillows

Dealing with death and dysfunction - My maternal grandmother passed away last week. No condolences are necessary as I didn't know her. I wanted to know her. I tried to know her, but she was...
13 years ago
Adoptive Parents Speak

Just Sayin - In regard to some of the comments I am not and will not post Defensive behaviors can be the result of a: * Challenge to private or public perceptions of ou...
13 years ago
Home

Moving Day - Tomorrow is August 29th, which is the deadline I set for myself to launch the newly designed site for Home (if I hadn't set the deadline I may have procra...
13 years ago
Yoon's Blur

Farewell to Yoon's Blur - So, I know I just said I was going to take a break. But I have decided that, yes, it is time to go. No more "breaks." This is it. In light of all the "bre...
13 years ago
May I Have a Word?

Musician Suzanne Vega Finds Her Birth Father--Her Blood Sings - Suzanne Vega's adopted. Sort of. At age 9 she found out her daddy wasn't her real daddy. She was also shocked because that meant she was White. (Adoptive d...
13 years ago
Jacquinn Speaks

My 30 Day Dating Diet - ----My 30 Day Dating Diet Journal---- "Embrace and appreciate your woman's mind." Tony Gaskins said. The immediate thought that rushed to my mind upon hea...
13 years ago
The Burden of Thought

Completely unreasonable - For some reason I feel a twinge of jealousy whenever a friend tells me that she is pregnant. Even though I myself was once pregnant and carried the baby (m...
14 years ago
One Inch of Grace

Guest Post: A Grandmother’s Adoption Perspective - I’m excited to share my first guest post! This is from my mother, “Grandma G”, and this is her adoption story. ____________________________________________...
14 years ago
Screwed Up: My Story

From the Beginning - Are you a new reader? Then may want to start here. See my main blog HERE. Screwed Up: My Life Part I Part II Part III Part IV Part V Part VI Part VII P...
15 years ago
Tubaville

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Full Circle

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La Bicicleta

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And Then There Were Seven

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The Anywhere but Here Girl...

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Caring for Other People's Children

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Home

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The Warrior Princess Diaries

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The Mom With Brownies

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Joy's Division

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I'm A Foster.com. Life before, during, and after foster care.

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iAdoptee

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The Adoption Counselor

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Insert Bad Movie Title Here

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From the Past into the Future

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Elaine's Blog

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Last Mom

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Whispers of a Former Foster Child

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Gold to Refine

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Real Daughter

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Angry Adoptive Mom

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Real Daughter has moved to wordpress

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Musings of the Lame: Life as a Birthmother

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Life After Foster Care

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Relearning to Fly

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