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Some times I long for old-fashioned gender roles – like when something electrical needs to be rewired, or plumbing needs to be reassembled or when my husband is pointing to the huge hairy spider he would like me to kill for him….
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OAB Interview Day!! Meet Ashley... - Oh how I love Open Adoption Bloggers - especially the Adoption Interview Project. Meet Ashley from Blessings in a Basket! I loved getting to know Ashley...3 years ago
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Daiily Bastardette moving to Word Press - After a couple years of talking to myself about it, I have decided to transfer *The Daily Bastardette* from Blogger to Word Press. The final straw came...
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Back to school= quiet house - Back to school 2012 that's deserving of a blog post! Really, my house is quiet. The tears of sending Jack off to Kindergarten have passed. I have a mome...
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Moving - I have moved this blog to http://adoptingspecialneeds.wordpress.com. I hope you all move with me!4 years ago
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See ya. - Well, I’m done. This blog has run its course. It got to be more of a burden (har har) than something I wanted to spend time doing. I had all sorts of thing...5 years ago
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Absence Makes The Heart Grow........ - "Absence makes the heart grow founder". Does it really? Or does absence make the heart grow curious, empty, confused, or just plain hard? I never truly und...
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Labels Change. “Foster Kid” to “Foster Parent” - Fifteen years ago, if you would have told me that I would one day be a foster parent, I would have laughed in your face. I wanted to be so far away from th...5 years ago
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Reminder - I moved to: http://insertbadmovietitlehere.wordpress.com Thanks for following!
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Recognition. - My biosister, Nicole, is a teenager and is 5 months pregnant. Obviously, when most people find this out, they are curious to know if she will place her ...
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Moved - I've got myself some new digs. If you want to follow, email me at: dandiesinthesunshine@hotmail.com5 years ago
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Saying Goodbye To A Pet Is Never Easy - I lost my first baby, bandana boy, sooo sad. The decision was hard. And even though it may have been obvious, the loss of a pet is never easy. I still r...5 years ago
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Just Sayin - In regard to some of the comments I am not and will not post Defensive behaviors can be the result of a: * Challenge to private or public perceptions of ou...5 years ago
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Moving Day - Tomorrow is August 29th, which is the deadline I set for myself to launch the newly designed site for Home (if I hadn't set the deadline I may have procra...5 years ago
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Farewell to Yoon's Blur - So, I know I just said I was going to take a break. But I have decided that, yes, it is time to go. No more "breaks." This is it. In light of all the "bre...5 years ago
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Musician Suzanne Vega Finds Her Birth Father--Her Blood Sings - Suzanne Vega's adopted. Sort of. At age 9 she found out her daddy wasn't her real daddy. She was also shocked because that meant she was White. (Adoptive d...
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