Everybody is talking about Oprah like this from Lorraine at Birth Mother, First mother Form:
“I am not the only one who found Oprah's mother's interview and reaction to her newly found daughter, Patricia, a tad...er, difficult to watch? Turn around and hug your daughter! my mind was screaming at the TV yesterday. Apologize for not responding to your daughter's plea for confirmation and contact. At the same time, Oprah's distance and undercurrent of irritation towards her mother, Vernita Lee, was barely concealed.
So, why didn't Vernita respond to her daughter's obvious plaintive plea for confirmation and contact? She wrote, as I recall, her pastor wrote, but still no response. Why? asked Oprah. Vernita said: "Because I thought it was a terrible thing for me to do, that I had done, gave up my daughter when she was born."
Why is it so hard to understand that some women don’t want to be mothers? That some women give away their children on propose? They don’t want them and they don’t want them back? They don’t pine away waiting for their child's return from their “abductors”.
Vernita didn’t raise Oprah, why would anybody be surprised that she had abandoned yet another child?
Pitricia’s mother, Vernita left her at the hospital of her own free will. And apparently she had no intention of meeting her again. And at least twice when contacted, Vernita said she wanted no contact. Some will blame guilt and shame, but from what I saw, had Patricia and Oprah not forced the issue, Mommy had no intention of playing family.
Maybe, it is a sin to say it in certain circles but the way I see it in the end, the two children Vernita gave up faired much better than the two she kept.
Some women WANT to walk away form their children and keep walking.
